Tuesday Talk: Gratitude



Before we jump in to todays post I wanted to let in you in on the details of these Tuesday Talk posts. You will be seeing them most Tuesdays and each one will cover a different topic. These will be a bit more personal, but I really hope we can start a conversation and create a community here at That’s Darling. That’s what these Tuesday Talks are all about, community. Some will be more serious than others, some longer than others, but I have always dreamt of having a series like this where we can discuss issues, ideas and everything in between. So I hope you enjoy them friends and please please continue the conversation in the comments section or anywhere else!

I originally thought of this post back around Thanksgiving time and as we headed into the holiday season. That always seems to be a time when people think more about gratitude. However, gratitude should be a year round thing. It’s something that I never thought too much about, sure I’ve always been thankful for certain things in life, but until recently I never knew how much it could change your world and the way you think about things.

For me it all seemed to start at the beginning of this year. I made a few healthy changes and really stuck to my goals. Along with that came a new way of thinking. It was a gradual shift that I didn’t even realize it until a few weeks ago. I think it all began with a little saying that Matt and I often say to one another “good problems to have”. I remember one of the first times I said this to Matt, we were at that lovely time of year…tax time. We had a decent amount of taxes owing and I remember thinking to myself “this is a good problem to have”. It means we made money over the past year, which really is a luxury. I can honestly say that since that time I’ve probably said “good problems to have” about a million more times. Because reality check friends, a lot of things are good problems to have. It really changes your thinking and the way you view something. It can take a problem or situation from a negative to a positive. You can always learn something from any situation and that’s what makes those hard times beneficial or at least not god awful. It’s always reminding yourself to be grateful, because not everyone has the luxuries that we have. Our hot water tank broke last year, though not necessarily a good problem to have, it reminded me what a luxury it is to even have hot water in the first place. So while I was busy being a little irritated and frustrated at the prospect of having to change my schedule for someone to come and fix it, I quickly stopped myself and reminded myself that there are a lot of people that not only don’t have hot water but don’t even have clean water. When you change the way you think about situations and how you approach them, it really can change your world.

I try to think of some things everyday that I am so thankful for. They can big, small, silly or serious, but actually naming these things and saying how thankful you are for them is what makes the difference. Try it tomorrow, try and pinpoint some of the things in your life that you are so thankful for. And next time you come across a problem or issue try and think how it can turn into a positive. How the experience can be a lesson or how it really is “a good problem to have”. I’ll be talking more about gratitude as time goes on but just wanted to quickly share those thoughts with you all! Have a great day friends!

Tips For Throwing A Bridal Shower

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A few weekends ago I had the pleasure of throwing a bridal shower for my sister. As part of my maid of honours duties, and well because I love planning parties, I jumped at the chance to throw her a shower. As I began thinking about this task a few months prior I suddenly realized that I had actually never attended a bridal shower (cue a bit of a panic attack). Luckily, with the help of some of her bridesmaids and Pinterest I was able to come up with and execute what I thought to be a lovely event one Sunday afternoon. When the day arrived for the shower, I was so glad to see that the sun was shining and it was a beautiful April day. Although this shower went off without any problems, I realized I had learnt a few things along the way and wanted to share them with you all incase any of you have the honour of throwing a bridal shower. These tips can really relate to just about any wedding related event though!

1. Decide on your budget and the amount of work you want to take on:
This was definitely the first thing I thought about when starting the planning process. I had previously thrown my sister an engagement party last summer and I’m not going to lie it was quite the undertaking! I really decided to do everything on my own, from rentals to catering to decor, I tackled just about it all! Although I loved every minute of it, I knew that for the bridal shower I wanted to do something a little easier and something that wouldn’t take up too much of my time. My reasons for this were honestly to make my life a bit easier and free up my time for other wedding related things, because there is a lot that goes on prior to the wedding! So, with this in mind I decided that having the shower at a venue was the perfect option, and luckily I was able to find one within my budget! This was a perfect fit since they provided the space, all the tables and linens and most importantly the food. My responsibilities instantly decreased and I could focus on the decor, games and any other activities we wanted. When you start to plan for the shower firstly think of what your budget allows and go from there. If your budget allows for the shower to be at someones house with everyone bringing a dish than great! Or if your budget allows for you to choose a venue and let them take care of some of the details than that’s great too! Just decide early on what your budget allows and then you can be prepared for the type and amount of work you will need to do before the event.

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2. Ask for help:
This was a major factor in how my sisters bridal shower unfolded. As I mentioned above I had never actually attended a bridal shower before and knew right away I would need some help from the other bridesmaids to make this a great event. Luckily my sister has some great bridesmaids and I was able to discuss my ideas and thoughts with them. They helped give ideas and suggestions that I had never thought about and I was then able to divide some tasks out among them which helped free up some of my time to focus on the other aspects of the shower like decor and games. I highly recommend reaching out to the other bridesmaids or friends or family when planning a shower. Not only can they be of great help, but they too know the bride and may have some great ideas which will only help make the shower that much better for her.

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3. Keep it simple:
This is never an easy thing for me to do. When I start thinking of an event and planning for it I feel like it gets bigger and more elaborate as time goes on. However, I knew for the bridal shower I really wanted to keep things simple and easy for both myself and the guests attending. Luckily many of the important details were taken care of thanks to the venue we were at and therefore I just needed to focus on decor, games, activities and any other small details. I kept it simple with only 3 games (bride quiz, guessing the brides age and guessing the number of pages in a cookbook) and 3 small activities which included asking the bride to answer a “he said she said” type quiz, having advice from her grade 3 class spread throughout the room and having guests write advice to the future mr and mrs for their 1 year, 5 year, 10 year and 20 year anniversaries. It was the perfect amount of games and activities in my opinion and worked well for this shower. You can definitely have more or less depending on your bride and the way you want your shower to go (it really is up to you). My advice here is to just keep it simple. There’s no need for 10 different games and 10 different activities, a few will definitely suffice!

4. Keep the bride in mind:
I know this might seem so obvious but it really is important to keep coming back to this point throughout the planning process. You might have many opinions and suggestions from other people but remember that it’s the bride’s day and this is about showering her. I especially love this because you can tailor all the little details to what the bride likes and what suits her best. Because of this I decided that an afternoon tea shower would be best since my sister loves tea. I also kept her in mind when deciding the games to play. My sister has always loved photography and pictures, so I knew I wanted one of the games to involve pictures which ended up being the “guess the brides age” game. Think of what the bride likes and even ask her how she imagines the day and if she has any requests. Try to tailor as much of the day and event to her and if you do that then trust me you can’t go wrong!

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5. Get crafty:
I was lucky that the venue we chose didn’t really need much decor. It was filled with light from all the windows and had a beautiful wood finish throughout. I knew I wanted to add a few little decor items around the room to just bring it up to the next level… and well I also love a good DIY project! So I decided to tackle just a handful of crafty projects and not only were they super simple, they definitely added the finishing touches to the room and event. I was able to make a “bride to be” sign, a ribbon garland for the brides chair and tied some lace and ribbon around mason jars filled with flowers. These were easy crafts that didn’t take much time at all. So definitely think about the different projects you can do yourself which helps save you money but also adds a personal touch to the event! Be sure to check back here because I’ll be showing you how I did some of those DIY projects in a few days!

Currently Craving: New Beauty Buys

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At the end of every month or every few months I usually have a long list of beauty products that I’m hoping to buy. I like to keep an ongoing list saved to my phone so I can easily add new beauty items that I come across. I like to keep this list, do a bit of research on the products and see what others are saying about them before I actually buy them. This seems to work really well for me, since beauty products can be on the expensive side, and doing some research before really helps me decide whether it’s worth buying or not. Here are a few things I’ve had on my list for a few months now, hopefully some will be coming home with me soon! I’ll keep you posted on the ones I buy and what I think of them! Are there any products you guys are hoping to purchase soon or have recently bought and you love? If so, be sure to let me know!

Spring To Do List

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1. Spring cleaning: clear the clutter and try rearranging your place for a fresh new look!

2. Plan a picnic and day outside.

3. Buy fresh flowers when possible to brighten up your space.

4. Wear a fun bright lip colour.

5. Grab a book and read outside with a glass of wine or cup of tea to unwind.

6. Treat yourself to a fun new sundress!

7. Donate any clothes you haven’t worn in the past few months.

8. Ride your bike as much as possible.

Shopbop Sale Picks

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Fendi Sunglasses / Kate Spade Sunglasses / Karen Walker Sunglasses / Turquoise Ring / Letter Ring / Gorjana Bracelet / Purple Necklace / Gorjana Necklace / Knot Bracelet / Lilac Tote / Winking Clutch / Neon Pink Clutch / White Watch / Rose Gold Watch / Layered Watch / Brown Booties / Heart Flats / Glitter Oxfords / Two Band Sandals / Strappy Sandals / Black Booties / iPhone Case / Laptop Case / Headphones

Well it’s that time again where shopbop has their friends and family sale (enter SPRING25 at checkout). Everything is 25% off, which is pretty amazing seeing as a lot of these brands don’t go on sale very often (or ever). I headed over to shopbop yesterday to look at everything and felt a little overwhelmed. There’s just so much stuff and yes I could buy it all! However, I decided this was a perfect time and sale to stick to the basics and focus on accessories. I figured stocking up on sunglasses, jewelry, purses, shoes and tech accessories would be my safest bet. I’m still the kind of girl that likes trying on clothes before purchasing or if I do online shop it’s usually from places I’m familiar with their sizing. So I stuck to the basics and found some pretty great pieces. Hopefully a few of these will make their way to me before the end of the day when the sale ends! So hurry on over and scoop some of these pieces up for yourself!